Integrated Male from Nice Guy Syndrome
The Integrated Male is Dr. Glover's vision of recovery. He has boundaries. He expresses his needs. He doesn't need everyone to like him. He's kind when he chooses to be, not because he's seeking approval. He's connected to other men. He embraces his 'dark side.' This guide covers Integrated Male characteristics and the transformation roadmap.
- Integrated Male = boundaries, needs expression, self-validation
- Recovery isn't linear; progress over perfection
- 90-day roadmap for transformation
Integrated Male Characteristics
Boundaries: says no when he means no. Needs expression: asks for what he wants. Self-validation: worth doesn't depend on approval. Authenticity: himself, including 'dark side.' Male connection: has male friendships. Conflict tolerance: handles conflict directly.
The Transformation Roadmap
Phase 1: identification, covert contracts, needs priority. Phase 2: boundaries, safe people, male connection. Phase 3: integration, 'dark side,' conflict. Phase 4: maintenance. ConfidenceConnect structures this with Breaking Free activities.
Frequently Asked Questions
- What is the Integrated Male?
- Dr. Glover's vision of Nice Guy recovery. He has boundaries, expresses needs, self-validates, is authentic, connects with men, handles conflict. He's not perfect, he's integrated.
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